>My problem with understanding transgender people is how can you feel like you're the other gender. As a person you have no point of reference how other "genders" feel, you can only experience your own consciousness not someone elses. So how do you know?
Another explanation I though is that I just feel I belong to that gender more maybe? But again, as you said, how can you be sure about it? How do you know how other women or men feel like? You know what? No one is always sure. I will never be 100% sure about it and I will always have doubts. HRT definitely helps with this. If you feel better about yourself you probably are trans. However, I've heard people who are like 20+ years on HRT but still have doubts about it even though their life improved significantly. It's like a small curse or something. Actually, it's like when you stop smoking. You may get over it but the thought of smoking a cig again is always there. It never fades away. It doesn't really bother you but it still there. The good thing is that most people don't regret their transition so that's good.
>The article references transableism, where people want to paralyze themselves or cut off working limbs, which just kinda boggles my mind but I can see the similarities.
I've heard about this but I have no idea about this subject. I don't wanna get super woke and say silly stuff, however, I believe it can be possible accepting one thing and rejecting the other depending on our understanding of the subject. We may do the same thing but the root of the problem isn't necessarily the same.
I really liked Zizek's comparison with love btw. Though I still have some doubts about his point. I fail to see how "genderfluid" identities cannot be the explained as love, for example. I don't think they just choose what gender to "present". I was always seeing it, as Zizek said, as a necessity like myself but more fluid. Is it possible though?
On the subject of surgeries, yes you are right. Though, most people are satisfied with the results this may be due to low expectations. It's a difficult decision that if gone wrong, it can literally ruin your life. I was reading a thread on pLeBbIt the other day in which that person's surgeon messed up, she had like just a single hole down there and she wanted to kill herself. It scared the fuck out of me. You have to do a really good research and find a good surgeon for that. Then there's the other issue which is the ingrown hair. If you don't do good hair removal, hair can literally grow inside you and you can't do anything about it. Most of the times, it's jut one or two hair but still, it's kinda scary.
However, I have to say that successful surgeries are very impressive. Most women can orgasm and even get wet sometimes. Of course it's not the same as an actual vagina. This may sound like being "AGP" but even if it is, I have to admit it's very alluring to know that you can come this close. Trans men are not that lucky. As far as I know, they can't have good sizes and make it work as a real one. At least, I haven't seen one myself.
>This all makes me kind of reluctant to accept children from a young age making transitions.
There's a common misconception on that. I don't know if you mean medical transition but when people say that children should transition they mostly mean the social part of it. Like letting the kid dress however they want, use the name they like etc etc. The only thing they give to kids is puberty blockers but this requires, at least in my country, the approval of two psychiatrists and to be at least above 15. What these blockers do is basically put your secondary sex characteristics development on pause and you take them until you reach an age when you'll be considered mature enough to start HRT. If you change your mind you just stop taking them and you let your body develop as it would've done. This is done because you don't want to develop permanent characteristics and also you save yourself from extra surgeries (like top surgery trans men do). It sounds like too good to be true, like cheating, as there's no big drawback. I've read, however, that this may not be 100% safe but for the most part I think it is.