To me it’s just that the usual „phone in one hand, dick in the other, quickly jerk yourself to some porn” approach is deeply unsatysfying. Even without the porn, it just feels like scratching an annoying itch. I cum but not really orgasm - I no longer feel horny, but I don’t feel satisfied. Just sticky and gross lol
In order for it to truly feel good, I gotta be in the mood (not just horny - maybe I’m weird but to me it’s a slightly different feeling), loosen the grip and also to take the time to explore other parts of my body. Rub my thighs and chest, squeeze my nipples and whatnot.
Basically touch myself the way I’d like my non-existent partner to touch me lol
Only then, cooming actually feels pretty fucking good.